5 January 2015

3 Simple New Year's Resolutions

Happy 2015! 2014 was a bit of an odd year, I don't view it as being a year that I'm particularly proud of - I feel like I stumbled through it, not really achieving anything amazing, even though I did manage to gain my first 'real' job, have been on some amazing holidays, seen some of my favourite bands and have probably been more 'social' since University! To make sure I make the most of 2015, there are a few things I would like to achieve, or improve. 
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Success does not equal money
Success isn't about what you get on your pay check, how much money you can afford to spend on clothes each month, how many designer brands you have or the fact that you have a brand new car. At least, this is what I'm trying to tell myself. It feels like success is synonymous with money, and it's something that everyone is fighting and competing for. 

I don't want to come across as being judgemental, because I can't deny that I would love to be able to earn lots of money so that I can do whatever I want without any worries, get a new car, and travel to all of the cities I want to see. But why are we expected to have all of that now - maybe I don't want to seek immediate gratification, this type of 'success' shouldn't, and can't, be for everyone. I'd rather work, make mistakes, learn new things, meet new exciting people, especially if it meant that I'd finish in a better position as a person at the end of it. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that, in 2015, I want to focus on being a 'success' less, but realise that for me, being successful means doing something that I enjoy, being able to spend everyday with people I love, whilst being motivated and passionate about pushing myself, learning new things and enjoying the little things in my life. 
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Make comparing yourself your worst enemy
'To succeed in life, you need two things; ignorance and confidence'. The second I saw this quote from Mark Twain, I knew that there was a lot to learn from it. I'm notorious for comparing myself to other people, whether that be someone on the street who has longer legs than me, someone who appears to have their life 'sorted' at 22 (think London-based job, mortgage on the way, living with their other half etc.) or, as something which I've experienced recently, someone who has the ability to be loud and confident and generally just themselves without even thinking twice when surrounded by people. 

I know that this can hold me back - there's been times where I've either said no to something, or not pushed myself hard or far enough, because I'm scared of failing, being seen as weak, or just not as good as others. I need to remember that if there's anything I want to do, or if there's any ideas I have, to just be confident in myself - there's always someone else who could get there first if not! Also that sometimes being quieter than others does not mean boring - I can be loud and crazy if I want to, and I can also sit quietly in the corner, I shouldn't let it define who I am as a person. 
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In terms of ignorance, I don't want to necessarily be ignorant of other people, but ignorant in the sense that I won't care as much about them on a day-to-day basis. I've got friends that are very successful and I'm very proud of what they've achieved, but that's all I should be. Why critique yourself and query why you're not as good as them, when you probably are but in a different way, or where they excel, you excel somewhere else? Why spend all day ogling other people on Instagram, wondering how someone got so lucky because they appear to have shinier hair or prettier eyes. Stop; they're them, they probably have similar worries, quirks and down days just as you do (plus, there's always filters, everyone uses filters!). I need to celebrate myself for who I am, find what it is that I'm good at and what it is that I love, run with it and not look back! 

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Work hard and be brave
I feel like 2014 has been a bit of a slump for me; I've managed to get myself into a bit of a rut this past year, finding myself uninspired and demotivated. But this is something that only I can change, and it needs to be done soon! Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful and there's so much more good and beautiful than there is bad, it's whether you choose to notice it or not. Letting little things get you down and feeling very unlucky will only make you feel worse and force you to dwell on the bad things. 

My aim of 2015 is to change my attitude overall - the happier I am, the more beautiful things and good I see in the world around me and everyone else, the more I enjoy myself and the more motivated and passionate I am. It's amazing what a little smile can do! I want to push myself more, find more things that I enjoy and love - and to also be brave, if there's something I want to see or do, I don't want to be the only thing holding me back, it could be something amazing that changes my life. 

So 2015, it seems that I'm expecting a lot from you, but let's get started! 

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  1. Loved this post Charlie! 2013 for me was how last year seems to have been for you. It looked like I'd achieved loads in terms of work and the wider world wise, but I felt like I'd been stepping in the footsteps of something bigger. But then I decided enough was enough and made 2014 the best it could be. I adore the sentiment of working hard and being brave, not from a literal work and career sense but just trying to be and do more (:

  2. Absolutely loved this lady, you have so much to be proud about- and I'm sure this year will be amazing! I know exactly what you mean about being brave and comparing yourself to others, but you are truly amazing, so go knock 'em out! xxx

  3. Your resolutions are so lovely! I have only one: be myself! <3


  4. i really enjoyed reading your resolutions, i know what you mean with comparing yourself to your friends and ppl on social medias, we can easily get caught up in this bad habit, and it makes us feel like we're "failing at life", as if there were a preemption date to all things of life. We should all celebrate who we are and our uniqueness, we have time to achieve things that matter to us, and "success" isn't the same for everyone, we don't all have the same ambitions or dreams in life :)
    Hope your 2015 year will be great :)
    Emma's Little Box

  5. Fabulous post! Love your resolutions especially the first one.


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